“There is an untold story behind every modern woman who is thriving in her life’s journey. She owns every experience she’s had, every decision she’s made and is blossoming into a woman of many facets.”- Elizabeth Arden
Let’s start off with saying that from the age of eleven to fourteen, my family had a pole in the living room. I’m not talking about a pole or beam for support, I’m talking a pole for, well, pole dancing. We lived in Los Angeles, a place notorious for the next up and coming fitness fad that could help you lose weight quickly, something my mother was always fond of. But this workout, Sheila Kelley’s S Factor, turned out to be different. And I only know because I ended up taking the teen class, which changed a few of the fundamentals of the class (ie no lap dances and smaller class sizes) in an attempt to shift the focus from learning how to be sexy to learning how to feel sexy.
Feeling is the key here, and it has to do with the whole mind-body connection thing. My mom’s main mission in having me take the class came down to this mind-body connection. She explained to me that I needed to understand the innate power I had in taking control of my body and my own sexuality, and how if she had done this, she would have saved a few years of heartbreak. And S Factor did just that. Kelley describes the workout as, “a fitness technique that teaches women the language of their bodies through fluid feminine movement. The ultimate revelation of S for any woman, is the awakening and cultivation of her own soulfully sexy Erotic Creature. When integrated into a woman’s daily life, this Erotic Creature propels a woman forward like rocket fuel, towards whatever desire she wants to attain.”
This understanding of ones self creates a sense of power in women, and the connection between how a women feels to how she presents herself is the birthplace of where sexuality and your comfortableness in your sexuality can ignite. It’s where you begin to understand that this thing called “sexy” is really no more than an elusive term that doesn’t really describe anything as it means different things to different people. It’s where you begin to understand that sexy has evolved from a dictionary definition meaning, “sexually attractive or enticing” namely in the looks department, to something more than just your outward appearance. It’s about your essence, your confidence. That’s what sexy has begun to evolve into. And that’s something to be proud of. But there’s still work to be done. Stay tuned for another post on that later!
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